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2020/05/18

安東彌勒山早課
An Dong Maitreya Hill morning lesson

讀經的方法
A guide on Sutra recitation

先靜坐三分鐘,調順呼吸,收攝心神。
Meditate for 3 minutes ,regulate your breathing, focus on your mind

眼觀經、手指經、口吐經、耳聽經、意在經、鼻孔自然呼吸,不徐不疾。
Eye focus on the sutra, finger points on the sutra, recite the sutra, listen to the sutra, mind concentration, breath naturally and unhurriedly.

經從心中起,清清淨淨。
Sutra begins in your heart, clearly and peacefully

經從眼中過,明明白白。
Sutra passes your eyes, with clarity

經從口中出,字正音圓。
Sutra comes out from your mouth , clear words and sound

經從耳中入,靈靈寂寂。
Sutra enter your ears , clearly

經從竅中落,落地有聲。
Sutra enter your conscience, and clearly heard.


2020/05/18(3)互敬互諒,牽手做夫妻之3——還有,婆媳之間最難相處對不對?你們乾道夾在中間,護哪一方都不好,如果你護了太太,把父母、兄弟姐妹趕出門了,人家會怎麼說你?人家不會說你,反而會說你的太太,娶到不孝的媳婦,讓她揹上不孝的罪名。我們得要會做人喔!有什麼事情解決不了的呢?只欠溝通嘛!大家都是來自不同環境,當然會有生活習上的差異,這時就是需要你去居中慢慢調和,而不是火上加油啊!


2020/05/18

(3)互敬互諒,牽手做夫妻之3


雲遊師姐慈語:還有,婆媳之間最難相處對不對? 你們乾道夾在中間,
Also, the most difficult thing to get along with the mother-in-law, isn't it? And men are caught in the middle.

護哪一方都不好,如果你護了太太,把父母、兄弟姐妹趕出門了,人家會怎麼說你?
It's not good for either side of your standing. If you protect your wife and kick your parents, brothers and sisters out of the door, what will people say about you?

人家不會說你,反而會說你的太太,娶到不孝的媳婦,讓她揹上不孝的罪名。我們得要會做人喔!
People don't talk about you; they talk about your wife. You marry the un-filial daughter- in-law and let her carry the crime of un-filial piety. We have to know how the humaneness runs!

有什麼事情解決不了的呢?只欠溝通嘛!大家都是來自不同環境,當然會有生活習慣上的差異,
Is there anything that can't be solved? Just lack of communication! Everyone is from different environments, of course, there will be differences in living habits.

這時就是需要你去居中慢慢調和,而不是火上加油啊!
This is the need for you to slowly reconcile at center, rather than on the fire to refuel ah!

故事:Story

有一對夫妻是大學同學,兩人畢業後一起留在外地工作。
There is a couple who are university classmates, and the two stay together to work in the field after graduation.

雖然兩人還沒結婚,但都見了家長,結婚這事算是定下了,但兩人也都不著急,現在人結婚都晚,不差那一兩年。
Although the two were not married yet, they both met their parents and decided to marry. But neither of them was in a hurry.  Everyone is getting married late,  it 's okay to get married after one or two years.

兩人都剛工作不久,平時沒有多餘的時間浪漫。
Both of them have just worked shortly and usually have no extra time for romance.

剛好中秋有個長的假期,兩人就想藉  此機會去城市旅遊,也就商定下來了。
Just  Mid-Autumn Festival had a long holiday, the two wanted to take this opportunity to travel to the city and negotiated to determine.

但中秋前一星期,先生接到了准婆婆的電話,電話中充滿了母親對兒子的思念之情。
But a week before the Mid-Autumn Festival, the husband received a call from the mother-in-law,the phone was full of mother's feelings of missing her son.

准婆婆生活在鄉下,自從先生到上海工作,已經一年多沒回家,母親是日思夜盼,苦盼不來。
The prospective mother-in-law lives in the country. Since her son went to work in Shanghai, he has not returned home for more than a year. The mother day and night hopes that her son can go home, but whatever the hope, her son did not go home.

正好小長假,老公的爸媽商量著想進城看看他倆。
The husband's parents are discussing about taking advantage of the small vacation enter the city to see them.

太太透過話筒聽到准婆婆要來,情急之下說了幾句,
The wife heard the prospective mother-in-law coming through the microphone and said a few words in anxiety.

她大聲對老公說:可千萬別讓爸媽來,都說好要出去玩。
She said a loud to her husband: Don't let your parents come, we have made an appointment to go out and play.

哪知這話被婆婆聽了,頓時就不高興,直接掛斷電話,
Who knows that this was heard by her mother-in-law, and she was immediately unhappy, hang up the phone directly,

第二天還給兒子發了簡訊,讓兒子跟媳婦趁早分手,這樣的兒媳婦可不敢要。
and send a message to the son at the next day, asking the son to break up with his wife, they don't want such a daughter-in-law.

省思  Reflection

心理學中,媳婦跟婆婆的矛盾從根本上來說屬於情感衝突。
In psychology, the contradiction between daughter-in-law and mother- in-law is fundamental It is emotional conflict.

婆婆、丈夫、媳婦這三者的關係十分特殊。
The relationship between mother-in- law, husband and daughter-in-law is very special.

婆婆跟兒子為血緣關係,丈夫跟媳婦是婚姻承諾關係,但婆婆跟媳婦之間卻沒有任何情感上的連結。
Mother-in-law and son are related by blood, husband and daughter-in-law are marriage commitment, but there is no emotional connection between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

婆婆跟丈夫之間有著血濃於水的依戀關係,
Mother-in-law and husband have an attachment relationship where blood is thicker than water, The mother-in- law and her husband have an attachment relationship that blood is thicker than water.

這種關係持續了二十多年,如今被一個"外來的女人"給拆散了。
This relationship lasted for more than 20 years and it's broken up by a 「woman from outside」.

現今因為時代的差異,很多觀念已經改變,家庭不和諧只會產生更多無法跨越的障礙。
Now because of the difference in times,many concepts have been change family disharmony will only produce more overcoming obstacles.

結論:Conclusion

◎維持家庭的和諧,從溝通開始。
◎Maintain the harmony of the family, starting with communication.

◎在家庭中應以愛為出發點, 以體諒、善解為優先。
◎In the family, love should be the starting point, prioritize consideration and understanding .


對不起 請原諒我
I am sorry,please forgive me

謝謝你 我愛你
Thank you and I love you

感恩別人的提醒
Grateful for your advice

快樂是給心中知足的人
Happiness is with those who have a contented heart.

幸福是給常懷感恩的人
Good fortune, happiness, and contentment in life are with those who are always grateful.


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